Auto repairs and future problems

I read about your Accord transmission problemand the recall. I have a good friend with a 2003 Accord that has 90,000 miles on it, it was cared for at the dealer,. Now the trans slips babdly between 2nd and 3rd when turning. How did you get the recall?? The dealer demenyed that. He is looking at a $3000 repair job. Help please with advice to get Honda to cover this> The extra pump was added whrn the car was new. He has all service records. The dealer , of course, wants the problem to be recreated before it can be checked out. Ithere any help out there??