I’m the OP. And I see I left out why I’m looking to go to the Highlander.
It’s because our daughter says they need a pickup on the farm. The Tundra is too big, the gator too small. So I’m going to give her our 1994 Mazda B4000 that’s been in the family since '96 and occasionally has strangers offering to buy it off our driveway.
When the truck goes, it means that loading dirt or rocks from Home Depot (or groceries) will be easier on my aging back with the Highlander than the Accord.
Frankly, I also worry the Accord wouldn’t protect us as well in a crash. Never had one yet, so I’m due. There’s just more sheet metal in the Highlander. (On the other hand, I suspect the Accord’s better handling would help avoid a crash in the first place.) As the years pass, survival becomes important. At some point it won’t matter, but I’m not there yet.
Reading and thinking about all the comments (thanks!) I’m going to keep the Accord but put a tarp in the trunk and, if the load is too big, rent a U-Haul.
One last thought on the Highlander: I was a contractor in Iraq and Afghanistan 2006 - 2010, off and on. Highlanders were what we usually drove around in. Not that it would help against an IED, but every Highlander I was in rolled right over the potholes and craters, with air conditioning that never quit, and never breaking down. I think I’m in love with the beast.
Plus in all our long marriage we’ve never had a comfortable car, and my wife deserves one. She’s never complained, but it would be great to put her in a clean Highlander. (Don’t tell me to get a new one. All of us know that’s not smart.) She wants a van (she forgets we’re empty nesters) and an SUV like the Highlander will give her the room and height while keeping me out of a minivan.