“We spoke with our insurance company and they said something to the effect of: Get back to us when they give you their numbers.”
That seems reasonable. They will advise you concerning the repairs recommended. I assume that the cost is not part of “the numbers” becasue it is not important to you.
Unfortunately, no one owes you a new car. The dealership and their insurer at most owe you a used 2009 truck with the same or more options in a color scheme that you are satisfied with. They have to replace the truck with one that is at least the same as the one that is damaged. This is probably possible by repairing this one. Ask them about checking for frame warpage or damage after the truck is repaired, or whether thay can do it now to help determine if it can be fixed with the funds available to them.