You should have a wattage rating on the back of all speakers. Most car speakers are 4 ohm and most car amps are as well. Make sure that matches. Don’t keep cranking the amp up till distortion in the amp ruins the speaker, and you should have few problems. Buying from Crutchfield and doing your own work will get you some good advice from their techs on installation.
Make sure you use both a high quality speaker and amp that does not distort at the high volumes you seem to prefer.
Small subwoofers of 8 inches or less give you all the bass you need for inside the car. Anything more than that, and your goal changes to “entertaining” every one else outside. If you can afford it, a professional auto sound installation shop usually gives the best advice and does the best job specific to your car…they are all different environments and each has it’s own solutions. What might work for you, may not for other cars or ears. I have been spoiled by the shops in our area and even if I had the equipment and time, I would have one of them do the choosing of equipment and installation.