More and more I am inclined to compare fixated, compulsive adherence to “official dogma” with fixation on following the directions of a GPS. It’s as outrageous to consider using anti seize on lugs criminal sabotage as it is to drive in circles following the delirium of RECALCULATING.
How destructive is motor oil on lugs? Before answering go into a muddy field with a 1" breaker bar with a 1-1/2" socket and remove and reinstall the rear wheel on a tractor. You’ll wish that the threads had been lubricated at the previous installation. Same when dealing with a flat on a dual wheel bob truck with 8 lug wheels on the side of a busy highway.
Again, after many years using anti seize on wheel lugs without using a torque wrench I have never, ever had a failure resulting from doing so. From Chevettes to tandem axle dump trucks there was never a failure and most of the vehicles were in fleets that no one worked on outside my shop.