The problem with using the policy as your reason is that following the rules for the sake of the rule is a child’s level of reasoning. People who have reached an adult level of moral development scrutinize each rule or policy and decide for themselves which rules and policies are morally valid and which ones aren’t. This is what we do every time we surpass the posted speed limit. We’re deciding, on our own, that the speed limit on that road is too low, or that speed limits are arbitrary rules. So saying the policy itself is your reason for something is to treat your customer like a child. It’s better to explain the reason for the policy, and why the policy makes sense, and to do that, you don’t even need to mention the policy itself, or even say the word “policy.”
Adults who are capable of higher reasoning don’t follow rules for the sake of following rules. They choose for themselves which rules are just and which rules are unjust, and treating your customer like an adult is more likely to elicit him acting like an adult.
I worked in customer service for a long time. I also worked in accounts payable for a company that declared chapter 11 bankruptcy with $550,000 in debt. When delivering bad news to anybody, especially a customer, the more respectful you are to them, the more respectful they will be to you.
Now, I recognize that some people are more likely to fly off the handle than others. These people exist on a different part of the “reasonableness” scale than I do, but even in the heightened range of the “reasonableness” scale in which these people exist, being professional and respectful will encourage them to act more reasonable than they would otherwise.
I’m just putting this out there for those who are interested in learning the best way to deal with angry or difficult customers. If you don’t have the patience or fortitude to remain calm in a heated exchange, this approach might not be for you. As I told a lady at Subway last week, customer service isn’t for everyone. Not everyone has what it takes to be good at it.
As soon as you say the word “policy,” the policy becomes the topic of the conversation, and you want to avoid that. As I said earlier, it’s best to make the customer’s inability to pay the issue of discussion so you aren’t putting yourself in a position where you have to defend the policy. You and the customer shouldn’t be scrutinizing the policy. You and the customer should be scrutinizing the customer’s inability to pay the bill. Or better yet, you can scrutinize the customer’s lack of understanding that hat our society exchanges currency for goods and services, but if you do that, it’s best to keep a respectful tone.