Free oil changes for life is a very nice perk, but this largesse on the part of the dealership does not mean that you need to have repairs done by them.
However–their inspections, while undoubtedly self-serving, may provide some useful insight into current or developing problems with your car. Case in point would be your torn CV boots. Since this is apparently not a new problem (you were previously told about this condition), you really need to get the car to a competent mechanic for inspection of that area of the car.
When a CV boot is torn, it allows water and road grit to get into the CV joint. After awhile, enough damage has been done to significantly shorten the life of the CV joint.
At this point, if you simply replace the CV boots, you will most likely still wind up with broken CV joints in the near future, thus stranding you somewhere.
Have a well-reputed independent mechanic replace both front axles (this includes the CV joint and the boot), and take comfort in the reality that this won’t cost that much more than merely replacing the boot. While he is underneath the car, have him check the control arm bushings also. If they are bad, it may be possible to replace just the bushings, rather than the entire control arm(s).
In the future, I strongly suggest that you take the dealership’s “red flag” list to an indy mechanic a.s.a.p., in order for him to check those items. Maintenance and repairs that are deferred are invariably more expensive in the long run.