This is my advice for you; if you are this unsure of your driving, then you should seriously consider taking Driving Lessons from a Professional Driving School. You have developed a style of driving that is probably unsafe, it not illegal; and by your own admission, you age is also contributing to your issues…
You wrote, “As you approach a stop light controlled intersection with a green light showing, do you go faster to try to make it through before the lights change? Or do you reduce speed, anticipating the lights may change?”
If you do not know that you should maintain the speed limit to keep the flow of traffic moving smoothly, then you do not belong on the road. How do you even decide whether you should slam on the brakes or proceed through an intersection if the Yellow Light should come on before you reach the intersection?
You should also contact your local Senior Center, almost all Senior Centers offer classes conducted by AARP, the American Association of Retired Persons. Their classes specialize with the difficulties facing older drivers… Their Classes address:…
*** Defensive driving… (safe driving, including how to avoid distractions and handle left turns, right-of-way, and roundabouts)
*** Safety features… (How to properly use safety belts, airbags, anti-lock brakes, and other car technologies…)
*** Road rules… (State-specific rules and regulations – such as those for construction zones, child safety seats, and school buses…)
Hey did I just write School buses??? I sure did!!!)
*** Medication and age-related changes:… (How medication can affect driving, and how age-related changes in vision, hearing, and reaction time can impact driving…)
*** Driving conditions… (How to navigate challenging driving conditions…)
Most AARP Classes taught at various locations do have a cost (AARP? Members get a discount…), some locations, various businesses or organizations (religious organizations, non-profits, etc…) may pay the cost… Many Insurances companies also offer multi-year discounts for the course…
However, here is an online course that might just help you a bit, but there is no beating the in-person experience!
So, this provides you the opportunity to do something about your issues and problems and quit commiserating about them…