Jeep wranglers 05 six speeds?

Has any one had problems with clutch failure on this year, whole clutch assembly worn out 39000 miles they say my fault, and this is a “wear item” maybe the clutch plate but not the everything else.

dealer also wants to replace not machine the flywheel. Ps my front rotors warped after 8000 miles my fault also. The replacements I did are still fine at 41000 miles?