I have read all the replies in this thread, including yours to other people.
I have learned this:
You were driving your car on a trip, with your family.
During the trip, you got a staple in one tire, so changed it out with your spare tire.
After that, still during the trip, you ran over something on the road, and it damaged a tire.
You were then stuck in a place with a small shoulder, with traffick flying past you at 80 miles per hour.
You then called Audi’s roadside assistance.
Audi offered two choices:
1- They tow your car to the nearest repair place to fix your tire.
2- They send a guy out to swap out your flat tire with your spare.
You refused #1 on the basis that they might not be able to carry the baby seat in the truck, or that the truck would be dirty, and your baby would die in a 2 mile drive from exposure to dirt.
While your fears were unfounded, I can understand that, to a degree.
You then refused #2 on the basis that your spare tire was flat, and that the tow truck had no way to inflate the flat tire.
This is the point at which you failed.
Had you accepted this offer, what would have happened is the truck driver would have come out, swapped out the flat tire for the slow leak tire, realized that it was flat, and then INFLATED IT on the side of the road. He would have then told you that this happens all the time, and that most people fail to check their spare tire pressure.
Is the Audi rep supposed to tell you this?
No. Its not her job to know that almost all tow trucks have air compressors in them.
Your failure to realize that the tow truck would have had an air compressor onboard was mostly due to the stress of the situation you faced at the time while being stuck on the side of the road with an unhappy wife and infant.
Had you been by yourself, I am sure you would have had the tow truck come by, the driver would have said lets put on your spare and inflate it, and you would have been on your way.
Unfortunately, the stress you were experiencing at the time of the incident prevented you from thinking the whole situation through.
The blame is not on Audi.
It is also not on you.
You were stressed, and not thinking clearly.
Have a nice life.
BC.