[bragging]I once taught someone to drive a stick on the car they would be driving while house-sitting our house in twenty minutes just before we left on vacation. We also taught three kids who now all drive standards, and are married to, or about to marry, people who drive standards. I even taught someone, a fellow engineer mind you, on a blackboard, including how to bernstein without using the clutch, before we went out to the car.[/bragging]
As others have mentioned, starting from a stop is the hardest part, the rest is straightforward once that is mastered. Learning that involves learning three (or two and a half) skills and IMNSHO it works best by learning the three skills separately instead of trying to learn them all at once.
And the most important skill is (drum roll please) accelerator control!
Safety first! Start in a big empty parking lot. Always start each exercise with a lot of room in front so they can focus on the single skill they are learning. Once they can do this make sure they know to never look at their feet or the tachometer again.
Skill 1 is controlling engine speed with the accelerator. This is easiest to learn if there is a tachometer, but can be learned by ear (or maybe with an electronic tuner for musical instruments), and it will be done by ear eventually anyway. Ask the student (with the car in neutral!) to accelerate the engine to 2000rpm and hold it there. Then 3000rpm, 4000rpm, 1500rpm, &c. Most will start by overshooting and wandering all over the place but will eventually be able to change the engine speed from one point to another smoothly and quickly. The reason this is important is that with an automatic in gear the mass of the car greatly dampens the car’s response to throttle position and we never learn fine motor control of the gas.
Skill 2 is finding the friction point. The objective is to get the car moving without using the gas. Tell them they will do a quick version of this in every standard car they ever drive, and also that they should stop looking at their feet (you don’t watch your feet when you walk or run, do you?). Leave the car at idle and do not use the gas for this skill.
2.1) Depress the clutch.
2.2) Put the car in first gear.
2.3) Let the clutch up slowly until the engine speed drops a few hundred rpm (as measured by the tach) or about halfway to stalling (by ear) and then hold it there;
2.3.1) Do not touch the gas.
2.3.2) If (When;-) the car stalls DO NOT make a fuss no matter how many times it happens; tell them that is part of the learning process and just have them start again and let it up more slowly.
2.4) The car will start to move, and as the engine speed recovers continue bringing the clutch up slowly to keep the engine just below idle speed; this exercise is in one sense the inverse of Skill 1 above.
2.5) After a few seconds the clutch will be all the way up and the car will be moving at idle speed.
2.5.1) Now it is very important to stop watching the tach or the pedals and to start steering.
2.5.1) Now is a good time to mention proper standard driving includes removing your foot from the clutch pedal at all times except starting or shifting.
2.6) If it hasn’t happened yet make sure they let it up fast enough to buck and stall so they know what that feels like; have them try to get it to start to buck but then recover by depressing the clutch.
2.7) Repeat this step until it is easy for the student. Note that doing this at idle reduces the wear, per start, on the clutch.
2.8) For variation and understanding, try doing it in the higher gears (but not as much; this puts a bit more wear on the clutch).
Skill 3 is simply coordinating the timing between the previous two skills. It could also be thought of as balancing those skills to keep the engine speed more or less constant; the chosen control speed determines the speed of acceleration. Trying to do this without having the previous skills down pat only makes the learning process more frustrating and take longer.
Excuse me for making the case so pointedly, but my claim is that finishing the following two sentences is a rhetorical exercise:
If someone can’t control the engine speed in neutral with the clutch disengaged, then they can’t do it …
If someone can’t get the car moving smoothly in first gear without using the gas, then they can’t do it …
Btw, the comment about the car stalling and having your 16yo daughter give you the look she hasn’t for ten years brought tears to my eyes, and I consider it a valid, no, make that imperative, reason for not starting out using this method.