sarahanken, with all due respect, some people have asked questions like “Who will be the primary driver of the car?” and “Whose car will it be?” If you would respond to some of those questions, people would have a clearer view of the whole picture. Frankly, you haven’t given us much to go on, so I expect to see comments all over the spectrum.
You may hot have said “My husband is pushing this on me,” but you did say “My husband wants to get a manual, and he is convinced I can drive it.” The difference between the two is a pretty thin line.