I’ve got it working hopefully until I can get to my mechanic, which will be a few weeks, as the ones who know my truck best are 5 hours away. When I get it all fixed, I’ll try to remember to post the end finds.
Seems to have been the actual battery ground that was messing up. 5 hours fooling with the lights drained it, and couldn’t use our other car to jump it, so brought the battery in for testing and it tested low, so I had them charge it, and it came back bad battery. Replaced the battery and everything is fine now.