HELP? i think i'm killing my jeep :(

Not changing the oil is not likely causing your problem, but if you want to keep your Jeep, I’d change it right away before you add a failing engine to your list of woes. An oil change can be had for under $20 if you look around, less than half the price of a tank of gas. Surely if you can afford to register and insure your car, you can afford this. It will be a lot cheaper than replacing the engine.