Traction and stability control vs awd

What conditions do you expect to drive in? If you live on a back road in snow country, then AWD is probably a good idea. If you live in a typical northern city and you can wait for the plows most of the time, then FWD with winter tires should be fine.

You said you’re scared of winter driving. Are you new to it? If so, make sure to practice a lot in empty parking lots when the snow comes.